All my life I’ve been around people who can’t control their temper. I made a vow when I was young that I wouldn’t be like that. I’ve always felt that showing explosive anger towards other people is unproductive, unkind, and unprofessional. Even now as an adult, I’m still subject to this from time to time from colleagues in various situations. I’ve begun to understand that my role in this world to some extent is to absorb these outbursts. Of course it hurts. It’s offensive and it’s mean, but many people just can’t seem to master themselves. They struggle to see specific situations as part of a bigger picture, and they’re quick to point fingers at others without taking responsibility for their own failings. But we all fail at times. Not one of us is perfect. I’m not perfect, and that’s why I don’t scream at people when they make mistakes.
I’ve been criticized as a teacher for not being harder on my students. Some of my colleagues have suggested in the past that I “blast” them and “scream” at them when they make mistakes. But why? I see that as nothing more than arrogance from the teacher, showboating and posturing. How is it productive? In fact, it’s counter productive because then the students are only trying their best out of fear. How is that effective for their long-term growth and ability to solve problems on their own? And then I have to carry around that anger. I don’t want to carry that anger in my heart. I try to be honest with my students, but not mean.
It really boils down to the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you’d have them do unto you. I try my best to live by that rule. It works. It’s logical. It makes the world a more productive and beautiful place.